Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Who are haters and why they hate?

   Who are these haters?
* One is a convicted Rapist
* One has a addiction to prostitution
* One is overweight and lonely
* One has to lie to feel important
* I bet all of them lives paycheck to paycheck
* They all are Insecure,Jealous, Intolerant and Bored

Very lonely people that feed off each others for support!


Why Do People Hate?

Life is short, life is hard, and somehow in the midst of it all people find the time to be haters. Haters love to hate. It’s truly unfortunate, clearly unnecessary, and I’d like to explore some of the reasons why people become haters.

Haters who are Insecure

I would say one of the major reasons that people become haters is because they are insecure. Insecurity notoriously breeds fear and it amazes me just how many people are completely unaware of the choices they make on a regular basis that are motivated by fear and insecurity. This kind of hater is acting on an animal like instinct and need to protect one's self from a perceived threat. Still, that's just not a good enough reason to be a hater.

Haters who are Jealous

A lot of people become haters because they are jealous. This person has what I can’t have, they are more talented than I am, they got a better grade than I did, etc. This attitude is adopted by the person who decides that someone has a greater opportunity or success and feels that they can compensate by putting someone down.
Jealous haters actually believe that hating on someone else will make them feel better, but it’s probably only short term and won’t fix the underlying feeling of incompetence. What jealous haters fail to realize is that its not about what is wrong with someone else, its about what is wrong with you that you are allowing yourself to be a hater.

Haters who are Intolerant

History has shown us entire communities, advocate groups, and even nations who become major haters because they have the inability to accept a group or individual who is different. Hot topics in this category include racism, ethnically mixed marriages, gay rights, religion, the holocaust – there really is an endless list of topics to mention when it comes to haters who become haters because they can’t tolerate something they don’t agree with or understand.

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Haters who are Bored

The most pathetic excuse of them all is that some people become haters just because they are bored. They’ve got nothing better to do than try to make someone else’s life miserable or at the very least a little less comfortable.
The most common example of this that I can think of, at least online, is the surplus of gossip blogs that serve no other purpose than to bash celebrities for their latest hair cut or outfit choice. It’s amazing how many people get paid to hate on other people. They’ve got nothing better to do than sit around and get paid to be negative. It’s the negative news that sells after all. That’s pretty sad but it’s true. If you know someone who is a hater because they are bored or are looking to make a buck, tell them to get a life. ;)

How to Deal with a Hater

Chances are that when someone is hating on you, it’s not about you at all. It’s about them. It’s their fear, their jealously, their boredom, and their insecurity.
Sometimes you just have to realize that people hate because they care. One of my favorite quotes to remember is that the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. If someone is hating on you it is because they have feelings. Something about you makes them feel any of the things we’ve discussed above.

If you are a high school student and are being bullied at school – I promise you, it’s not you. You’re fine. Be who you are. That’s ok. It’s always the haters who have a problem. They are trying to compensate for something. This is not the same thing as disagreeing. People are entitled to their opinions and should be free to do so as long as they articulate their feelings with respect for others. But when people decide to share their opinions in a way that is meant to hurt another person’s feelings, that is when they become haters.
My personal opinion is that the best way to deal with a hater is to ignore them. Don’t fuel the fire. Haters love attention. It’s because they are insecure, remember? Go on about your life with your head held high because if you retaliate and do what they are doing, you become a hater and you’re better than that, aren’t you?
If you can’t ignore them, be the bigger person and treat them with respect. It’s a losing battle because nothing you can say is going to satiate a hater. Unless someone is threatening you physically, the greatest thing you have to lose is your dignity (if someone is threatening you physically, tell someone who can help you now).
At the end of the day, there’s always going to be someone to hate on you, someone who doesn’t like who you are or what you’re doing. I’d like to conclude with an idea I feel very strongly about and remind myself of often.